Relax, Relate....RELEASE!!

I am soooo no my way to being a much better person. What I mean is I'm on my way to feeling better on the inside.  I've always know that there is a such thing as toxic people or people that really need to be purged from your life. But some people I just have had a hard time letting go. I guess because when I think of what I've shared with that person, I know that in some way it helped. The relationship may have caused me to see things differently, caused me really evaluate myself and understand me better. But what I am learning now is that even if the relationship was rewarding in the past it doesn't necessarily have to be a part of the future. I can get so attached to people that even as I'm being dragged through the mud I'm trying to hold on. But as I have gotten older, it has gotten easier to let people go and not look back. Life is full of phases and people do change. So who I was when I was friends with a certain person may not be who I am now and there is nothing wrong with that. And sometimes keeping someone in your life might constantly take you back to a place that you should move on from. Someone recently told me I was torturing myself going back to that hurt place every time I'm around them. While initially I was like, damn, when I later thought about it later, it was the truth. I'm holding on to something from the past meanwhile torturing myself in the present. Since I know that there is no way I can have someone in my life and not think about our past, if that past had hurt in it and I can't move past it, then I am torturing myself.

Have you had to ask yourself why? I've had to ask this question about people in my life and it baffles me when I can't find the answer. Why are you in my life? What is the reward? What am I giving you? What are you giving me? Are we mutually benefiting from this relationship? When the answers are positive, what makes it so hard to walk away? Now I have let people go who not a blessing to my life and I do feel better for. But some folk just got  a hold on me :-) Not anymore. I find no reason to continue a relationship that is painful, uncomfortable, or unequally yoked. So we have shared a wonderful past. We shared some wonderful times and we were close at one point.... I'll take with me those memories to be my sunshine after the raaaaaaaain! LOL

 

Peace, Akanke

 

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.
-- Raymond Lindquist

 

Letting go doesn't mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.

-- Anonymous