This is unreal!

I can not believe this woman actually said this!!! Read please!

 

House Fire on Effie Road 10/19/09.

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House Fire Leaves 1 Dead, 1 in Hospital

2 Year Old Still in Critical Condition

Updated: Monday, 19 Oct 2009, 10:05 PM CDT
Published : Monday, 19 Oct 2009, 4:18 PM CDT

http://www.myfoxmemphis.com/dpp/news/tennessee/101909_House_Fire_Sends_Two_Kids_to_Hospital

MEMPHIS, Tenn. -  

Screams filled the evening sky as family members try to cope with what happened today in a South Memphis community. Two children, two year old Catareon Dunn and three year old Ladareon Dunn, were left home alone shortly before a fire broke out.

 

Officials responded to a house fire call at 1236 Effie Road off Mt. Moriah.

The two boys were left unattended while their mother and aunt left the house to go drop off a friend. Sometime after that, 911 received a call from neighbors saying the house was on fire.

Neighbors say they heard screams coming from the house and rushed to the back door to try and rescue the children. However, when they got there, the flames and smoke were too powerful for them to enter.

When the children were finally pulled from the house, onlookers described them as looking like "rag dolls". Both were rushed to the Le Bonheur in critical condition. Ladareon died shortly thereafter. Catareon remains in critical condition.

The children's aunt, Marilyn Wilson, who left the house with the mother, said she had no regrets about leaving the children home alone, "No, I really don't because if they had been there by themselves, I don't know if the boys set the house on for or somebody threw something in there to set it on fire. I really need to get in there to see if my purse burned up. I had my Food Stamp Card and everything in there."

The cause of the fire is under investigation by the Memphis Fire Department.

 

 

3's of Me

I couldn't tag anyone in my note on facebook so I posted it on my blog. My facebook doesn't like me when I'm on the computer... Constantly kicking me out!!!

 

You've been tagged. You are supposed to write a note with the 3's of YOU. At the end, choose 20 people to be tagged. You have to tag me so really you just need 19 more people. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you -definitely in a creepy stalker kind of way! ;-)

(To do this, go to "notes" under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 3's of Me, tag 20 people - in the right hand corner of the app - then click publish.

Three names I go by:
1. Akanke
2. Quin
3. Queen

Three Jobs I have had in my life
1. CPS ADO Worker

2. Teacher
3. Sales Associate

Three Places I have lived
1. Houston
2. Atlanta
3. Cameroon

 

Three Favorite drinks
1. Chardonnay
2. Minute Maid Pomegranate Lemonade
3. Water

Three TV Shows that I'm watching this summer
1. Real Housewives of Atlanta
2. Nigerian Movies
3. That's about it. All my other shows are repeats


Three places I have been
1. Dallas
2. Detroit
3. Cleveland

Three of my favorite foods
1. Nachos
2. Sushi
3. Pasta


Three friends I think will respond
1. Aunt Beth (if she hasn't done it already)
2. Jamilla (might be bored at work)
3. Nef (just addicted to FB)

Three Things I am looking forward to
1. Going back to school to get my master's
2. A successful career employed by myself and those I serve
3. Getting married

Three of my favorite movies
1. Waiting to Exhale
2. Westside Story
3. Hitch

Three of my favorite things to do
1. Talk
2. Text
3. Eat

Relax, Relate....RELEASE!!

I am soooo no my way to being a much better person. What I mean is I'm on my way to feeling better on the inside.  I've always know that there is a such thing as toxic people or people that really need to be purged from your life. But some people I just have had a hard time letting go. I guess because when I think of what I've shared with that person, I know that in some way it helped. The relationship may have caused me to see things differently, caused me really evaluate myself and understand me better. But what I am learning now is that even if the relationship was rewarding in the past it doesn't necessarily have to be a part of the future. I can get so attached to people that even as I'm being dragged through the mud I'm trying to hold on. But as I have gotten older, it has gotten easier to let people go and not look back. Life is full of phases and people do change. So who I was when I was friends with a certain person may not be who I am now and there is nothing wrong with that. And sometimes keeping someone in your life might constantly take you back to a place that you should move on from. Someone recently told me I was torturing myself going back to that hurt place every time I'm around them. While initially I was like, damn, when I later thought about it later, it was the truth. I'm holding on to something from the past meanwhile torturing myself in the present. Since I know that there is no way I can have someone in my life and not think about our past, if that past had hurt in it and I can't move past it, then I am torturing myself.

Have you had to ask yourself why? I've had to ask this question about people in my life and it baffles me when I can't find the answer. Why are you in my life? What is the reward? What am I giving you? What are you giving me? Are we mutually benefiting from this relationship? When the answers are positive, what makes it so hard to walk away? Now I have let people go who not a blessing to my life and I do feel better for. But some folk just got  a hold on me :-) Not anymore. I find no reason to continue a relationship that is painful, uncomfortable, or unequally yoked. So we have shared a wonderful past. We shared some wonderful times and we were close at one point.... I'll take with me those memories to be my sunshine after the raaaaaaaain! LOL

 

Peace, Akanke

 

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.
-- Raymond Lindquist

 

Letting go doesn't mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.

-- Anonymous

Jump or Shut Up!

Am I insensitive?? I was having a conversation with my friend the other day and he was talking about how one of his friends is suicidal and apparently she's been that way off and on for a while. I went on to tell him that I have little tolerance for people like that. I say if you don't want to live, goodbye! Let me explain because that did sound a little harsh…

Life can be very hard. Sometimes things can seem so bad that you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I understand that. I even understand the occasional "I just can't take this anymore!" feeling. But if you are constantly calling me, text me talking about, "I think I'm gonna just kill myself" please stop wasting my time. If you gonna do it, do it. But if you wanna live, LIVE. Mental health is a serious issue and no one that really wants to end their life is always talking about it. They don't want the opportunity to be talked off the ledge. But, while I'm wasting my time talking you off, you making plans for next week and I miss warning signs of someone who may really be on the verge. So, if you feeling lonely and wanna talk, just say that. Don't call me talking about "I'm about to run into traffic" because I'm gonna say, well call me tomorrow if you're still around.

People are dying everyday. Someone is dying right now as I type this blog that does not want to die. So, if you don't wanna be here, stop wasting air and energy and go meet our maker! They we over populated J

Someone once started a texting conversation with me about wanting to end their life. I tried for a while telling them things they had to live for, people that love them, etc. Finally after the person negated all the help I tried to give, I texted, "Well, I'll check on you tomorrow." The response was, "If I'm still alive." "OK" I said. Next day, I hit em up and the person was all happy telling me about all this good stuff going on. See what I mean??

Don't get me wrong, I am sensitive and understanding but OMG, I have limits. I am available to be a listening ear and to lend an encouraging word or two. But pah-lease don't step to me that suicidal BS. If you can't cherish this precious gift of life, maybe you don't deserve it. If you come to me with all this negativity and I try to offer you a positive side and show you all the blessings you have yet you still talking about some old dumb mess…peace. May the ancestors welcome you!

Quick Question....

 

I had a conversation with one of my sisters in which I told her how I had done something that may be considered morally incorrect, but I didn't feel bad about it. (No one is dead, and no one's feelings have been hurt) Though some might view it as just plain wrong, I didn't and still don't. She said that sounded sick, like I was crazy or something. But who made up these morals anyway? If the morals I have make it okay to do what I did, why would it be wrong? If what I did seemed right and good to me can't it still bring me positivity? A friend of mine told me that people place right or wrong on their own actions. If you put out bad karma then expect it. But if you have good intentions and feel no bad way about what you've done then good karma follows. I don't know. That may be an excuse to do what you want to do and convincing oneself it's okay. What I do know is that I am a good person, an upstanding member of the universe and a lover of GOD. But what does it mean that I can "sin" and honestly feel like I have done nothing wrong?? Well, I know it was wrong but I don't feel like it was bad…I don't know if that makes since. I'm wondering if I've become heartless or something?? Anyone else ever done anything that may be considered wrong in the eyes of others but okay in yours? Or am I crazy?

Letter to My Past Self

Dear Akanke,

What's up girl? Go head! You made it! I know it was a hard road, but it's 2009, you're 25 and overall pretty happy. You have some great friends and you've had to let a couple go over the years. I know you were in some situations back then and you wondered if you'd ever see the light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Well, believe it or not, you and "john" have finally completely ended that fiasco. I know I'm shocked too. I know you didn't think you'd ever be able to let him, but you did. He's doing well. I still talk to him from time to time. He's happily married and has a beautiful son. You'd be happy for him. Oh, I forgot his birthday for the fist time in like 7 years! Can you believe it? And yes, I'm cool with "Tina" again. It'll never be the same but it took sometime for me to realize that the anger wasn't worth holding on to. You know you were pretty young and dumb back then.

 

I know the biggest shocker is that you made it to this day without Osakwe's physical presence. I know I'm shocked as well. Believe it not it did get a little bit easier. You know that constant pain in your chest? It goes away. Those tears ever morning stopped. But the "MOMENTS"!…LOL. Whew, I can't say they completely went away because sometimes it does still get hard to breathe. But, they aren't coming as often as before.

 

You finally had to let her go. I know you know who I'm talking about. It got too hard girl. I could no longer justify her presence in my life. Yes, I love her to this day but I just couldn't take it anymore. Maybe once she's done some growing we'll reconnect. I hear she's doing well.

 

Man! Can you believe that after all you went through with "john" I go and do the same thing with someone else? Girl, they reminded me so much of each other I almost called him by "john's" name on a few occasions. I saw all the warning signs, but just like how you were with "john", I thought I loved him and I thought putting up with it all was worth having him in my life. You know how you were; the lil piece of good was worth enduring all the bad…NOT! It ended the same way…baby, wife and all. Go figure. I know you probably thought I wouldn't put myself through that after what you went through but I did, and not just once. I did it one more time but it wasn't nearly as intense. There was no real love, just some emotions and feelings and mine got hurt. That's over now too.

 

So, at this point, I'm working on me. I know you had so many goals that I have not been working on. I'm planning the mentorship program idea you had. It's shaping up though I think it's more work than you thought it would be. LOL. I'm going to stick with it because after we've done to ourselves and allowed others to do, we deserve to be happy. We both have always settled for having a little bit of happiness when it comes to men. But then in the end, the pain and sadness heavily outweighed the happiness. I'm still learning lessons you didn't quite get. I don't like making the same mistakes over and over so I'm working really hard now so that when my next self writes to me, she won't have stories to tell of broken hearts, misplaced love, or wasted time. I'm focusing on finding the happiness somewhere more stable…in me.

Peace girl!

 

The third time is not charming!!

I’ve reached the end again. Can you believe I actually shed a tear Saturday behind a man?! I kept crying because I was mad at the fact that I was crying. What the hell!!! I really don’t even want to go into what exactly made me cry. It was just a combination of someone showing no regard for my feelings and me putting myself in the situation to get them hurt. I don’t like what I think I have become in his eyes and that disappoints me. Not that he views me that way, but that I am viewed that way at all. Anyhow, my friends I am done. And for real this time. I know that part of the problem is that I tried to convince myself that I really didn’t like him that much and that all the other chicks didn’t bother me. But who in their right mind would actually be cool with that situation? Actually we had a talk about feelings and he claimed he’d never hurt mine. I thought it was stupid to make such a promise anyway. I really don’t have the words to say to even fully articulate how I feel. I actually shed a tear today. And I want to stress that I am not in a sense crying over him it’s the situation. I cry because of me. I cry because I’m always in a position to get my feelings hurt. I remember when I told my cousin about a situation I was in that reminded me exactly of another I had been in. She told, “It’s going to happen again.” She said I had to go through it at least three times to really learn the lesson because I was still not fully understanding the lessons I needed to this second time. So dumb ass me…what do I go and do?? The same damn thing! I’m trying to learn my lessons… I think I got it. I don’t wanna go through this ever again. I refuse to secretly date another man while he publicly spreads his love!…Like I ain’t shit when the truth of the matter is … He ain’t shit!!!!!!!! Two of my best male friends that I talk to on a regular basis are always telling me positive things about myself and how I am so beyond the men I fool with. They can say some great things about me and I just don’t understand how my friends can see it, and they are men, but these men can’t. I hate that I’ve let myself get treated this way. OK! I’m done rambling.
I love me, I love me…
** Almost forgot... During my tears my friend asked me, "What's your name?" Y'all know I'm the chick with many names so I wasn't sure where he was going LOL. J/K..... I said, "Akanke" and he then says, "And what does your name mean?".....TO MEET HER IS TO LOVE HER!.... My friends said, "So, fuck him, you're a Queen!!!

I know these things! Why don't I act like it?


Amy Winehouse - Tears Dry On Their Own
This song is about me